Are you looking for some compassionate support to help you explore some big questions?
I get to do the best job in the world with my work - which is really just about one thing - helping people unhook from shame and powerlessness, so they can show up with courage, presence, and full integrity, in all circumstances and with all people.
If you've been putting off dealing with some of the sticky stuff in your life, including the very foundations of who you are being, and if you sense it's time and are drawn to my work, I'm ready to partner with you.
I do this work because it's the work of my life, too.
Your coaching is not about me, it's about you. But in the spirit of sharing the impact I know it can have, here's all the stuff I'd previously have hidden from you and the world. I've had to unhook from:
Hiding. Perfectionism. Tolerating too much. Half-heartedness. Negativity. Absent-mindedness. Martyrdom. Drama-queening. Powerlessness. Conceding to others. Looking 'out there' for answers. Feeling less than others. Feeling better than others. Isolating myself. Self-doubt. Fear. Enmeshment and co-dependency. Hiding and discounting my sensitivity. Blaming something 'out there' for my unhappiness. Forced positivity. Emotional reactivity. Over-achieving. Striving and efforting. Feeling intimidated. Showing-off to get attention.
It takes so much energy to manage how we appear to the world, and to let old stories of not-enoughness and powerlessness to run our lives. It's far simpler to be the whole of who we are, have presence, and go with the flow of our lives.
Underneath all that ego-y shit we find glorious human being-ness, full of life-force and capable of so much more genius, expansion and freedom than the old stories would have us believe.
And that's who I'm seeing in you, even before our coaching begins.
Our starting point will be how deeply you feel connected to yourself, then you create connection, how you feel when you are seen, your relationship with vulnerability, imperfection, your body, your money, your loved ones, your parenting, your creativity.
I like to dive deep (it's a Scorpio thing) so that we can unearth the shadows, shine a light, and heap ridiculous levels of approval on all the aspects of yourself you've previously judged as 'not okay'.
Time for some radical self-kindness and to reconnect with your joy.
I might be a good coach for you if you are ready to uncover your absolute truth about how you want to live your life, your way.
My clients have usually done a lot of self-development work over the years - they know themselves really well and have a high level of self-awareness and take 100% responsibility for the results they are getting in their lives - they just need a bit of support in stepping onto a bigger stage or going deeper into themselves, especially if they've previously had issues of 'not-enough-ness' or shame.
IMPORTANT DISTINCTION - COACHING AND THERAPY
I work deeply with emotion - I believe all our feelings are useful information and it is safe to feel. Anger, fear and sadness are good messengers for us about what's working and what isn't in our lives. Joy, satisfaction, love - they are positive emotions which broaden our thinking and allow us to create in a bigger way.
I believe it can be the work of coaching when we understand and explore our emotional world as it shows up in this moment, and how we want to feel moving forward. One of the main distinctions of coaching and therapy is that coaching is future focused, where therapy tends to focus in the past.
When emotion is stuck (for example you're living in a narrative of anger or fear or have ignored or repressed them rather than them being experienced in their natural form in this moment for something that's happening in this moment), has been repressed for a long time, or there is psychological trauma involved (as is often the case with shame work) I'd be deeply respectful of making the connection between what happened in your childhood or younger years, and shame, just long enough for us to make the links between past experience and the ways that affects your life, leadership, parenting or relationships today. Sometimes, that's enough for people to make the links and move forward. If you have deeper trauma work to do, I'll recommend you find a good therapist to work with.
I'm not trained as a counsellor or therapist, I'm not qualified to work with people with a mental health diagnosis and, in the spirit of my highest service to you, I won't be able to work with you if I sense that you'll be better served by another coach or referral to a therapist.
I know it sounds a bit 'heavy' but I have found there is lightness and freedom on the other side of this inner work. You'll know if the time is right for you.
Our coaching conversations are part 'kick shoes off, curl in front of fire' and part 'first 30 seconds of a rollercoaster' kind of conversations.
We will tell the truth, and we will be kind, and we will be real.
We will always allow the goodness in, and we will sometimes stand in the fire.
This is a powerful invitation - give yourself permission to be deeply supported. To be seen. To rise. To nurture yourself with the same care and compassion as you've been doing with others.
How it works - initial steps
I offer a free 30 minute conversation for us to talk more about what brings you to coaching, what matters most, and whether I might be a good coach for you. If I can help, I'll invite you to coach with me for an initial three months. If I can't, I'll be happy to recommend some other coaches or therapists that might be able to serve you more powerfully.
We can also use this time to co-create something together that best suits your needs - for example if:
- you're wanting a thought-partner to work through a straightforward issue in a single session,
- you want to work together for longer than three months,
- you're looking for a compassionate and courage-focussed Co-Active certification coach,
- you want to work through the full The Daring Way or Rising Strong curriculum 1:1 over 16 sessions.
Let's co-create something potent together.
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