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I get to do the best job in the world with my personal coaching work - which is really just about one thing - helping women unhook from shame and powerlessness, so they can show up with courage, presence, and full integrity, in all circumstances and with all people.

If you've been putting off dealing with some of the sticky stuff in your life, including the very foundations of who you are being, and if you sense it's time and are drawn to my work, I'm ready to partner with you.

I do this work because it's the work of my life, too. 

Your coaching is not about me, it's about you. But in the spirit of sharing the impact I know it can have, here's all the stuff I'd previously have hidden from you and the world. I've had to unhook from:

Hiding. Perfectionism. Tolerating too much. Half-heartedness. Negativity. Absent-mindedness. Martyrdom. Drama-queening. Powerlessness. Conceding to others. Looking 'out there' for answers. Feeling less than others. Feeling better than others. Isolating myself. Self-doubt. Fear. Enmeshment and co-dependency. Hiding and discounting my sensitivity. Blaming something 'out there' for my unhappiness. Forced positivity. Emotional reactivity. Over-achieving. Striving and efforting. Feeling intimidated. Showing-off to get attention.  

It takes so much energy to manage how we appear to the world, and to let old stories of not-enoughness and powerlessness to run our lives. It's far simpler to be the whole of who we are, have presence, and go with the flow of our lives.

Underneath all that mask-y stuff we find glorious human being-ness, full of life-force and capable of so much more genius, expansion and freedom than the old stories would have us believe.

And that's who I'm seeing in you, even before our coaching begins.


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Our starting point will be how deeply you feel connected to yourself, then you create connection, how you feel when you are seen, your relationship with vulnerability, imperfection, your body, your money, your loved ones, your parenting, your creativity. 

I like to dive deep (it's a Scorpio thing) so that we can unearth the shadows, shine a light, and heap ridiculous levels of approval on all the aspects of yourself you've previously judged as 'not okay'.

Time for some radical self-kindness and to reconnect with your joy.


I might be a good coach for you if you are ready to uncover your absolute truth about how you want to live your life, your way. 

My clients have usually done a lot of self-development work over the years - they know themselves really well and have a high level of self-awareness and take 100% responsibility for the results they are getting in their lives - they just need a bit of support in stepping onto a bigger stage or going deeper into themselves, especially if they've previously had issues of 'not-enough-ness' or shame.


Important distinction - coaching and therapy

I work deeply with emotion - I believe all our feelings are useful information and it is safe to feel. Anger, fear and sadness are good messengers for us about what's working and what isn't in our lives. Joy, satisfaction, love - they are positive emotions which broaden our thinking and allow us to create in a bigger way.

I believe it can be the work of coaching when we understand and explore our emotional world as it shows up in this moment, and how we want to feel moving forward.  One of the main distinctions of coaching and therapy is that coaching is future focused, where therapy tends to focus in the past.

When emotion is stuck (for example you're living in a narrative of anger or fear or have ignored or repressed them rather than them being experienced in their natural form in this moment for something that's happening in this moment), has been repressed for a long time, or there is psychological trauma involved (as is often the case with shame work) I'd be deeply respectful of making the connection between what happened in your childhood or younger years, and shame, just long enough for us to make the links between past experience and the ways that affects your life, leadership, parenting or relationships today. Sometimes, that's enough for people to make the links and move forward. If you have deeper trauma work to do, I'll recommend you find a good therapist to work with. 

I'm not trained as a counsellor or therapist, I'm not qualified to work with people with a mental health diagnosis and, in the spirit of my highest service to you, I won't be able to work with you if I sense that you'll be better served by another coach or referral to a therapist. 

I know it sounds a bit 'heavy' but I have found there is lightness and freedom on the other side of this inner work.  You'll know if the time is right for you.


 
 

Our partnership.

Our coaching conversations are part 'kick shoes off, curl in front of fire' and part 'first 30 seconds of a rollercoaster' kind of conversations.

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We will tell the truth, and we will be kind, and we will be real.

We will always allow the goodness in, and we will sometimes stand in the fire.

This is a powerful invitation - give yourself permission to be deeply supported. To be seen. To rise. To nurture yourself with the same care and compassion as you've been doing with others.

 

 

How it works - initial steps

I offer a free 30 minute conversation for us to talk more about what brings you to coaching, what matters most, and whether I might be a good coach for you. If I can help, I'll invite you to coach with me for an initial three months. If I can't, I'll be happy to recommend some other coaches or therapists that might be able to serve you more powerfully.

We can also use this time to co-create something together that best suits your needs - for example if:

  • you're wanting a thought-partner to work through a straightforward issue in a single session,

  • you want to work together for longer than three months,

  • you're looking for a compassionate and courage-focussed Co-Active certification coach,

  • you want to work through the full The Daring Way or Rising Strong curriculum 1:1 over 16 sessions.

Let's co-create something potent together.

Click the button below, if you wish, to set up a time to begin.

 

Here’s the impact from our coaching - the sessions really have been life-changing - they’ve enabled me to feel much more confident about who I am and what I believe to be important. I DO have the skills and expertise I need to achieve what I want!
— LG, coaching client.
A week after your interview skills course I went for a job and got it!! THANK YOU. And yes, I did the ‘sassy sister’ and ‘crossing the finish line punch’ in the loos beforehand and it obviously worked
— BS, workshop participant.
Jacqui helped me prepare for an interview and the one thing that really helped me forget how scared I was, was waving my hands about like an Olympic competitor. Not only did this remind me that I’m a winner but it also helped get my blood pumping to give me the energy I needed for the interview as well as making me literally laugh out loud which relieved some of the tension too. It made me focus on me and not how scary I thought the interview would be or would I be any good at it if successful. I got the job and will be bringing the positivity Jacqui helped me focus on and am looking forward to the new challenge. I can do it! :-)
— EGJ, workshop participant.
You helped me get two jobs! The stuff you were telling us about believing in ourselves and being proud of our achievements was very positive and I felt empowered and confident. Having you tell me it’s ok to feel good about things I’ve done is really liberating - this was a revelation! It focussed my mind to prepare and helped me with encouragement to go to interview and say - I’ve done this, I was good at it, it worked well and I am pleased! :-) I thought it was great!
— NP, workshop participant.
Coaching with Jacqui has is a beautiful combination of affection, tenderness and warmth. She is willing to challenge when needed. However, there is never any doubt in her unshakeable confidence in you. This has helped me to make such strides along my life’s path, I will be eternally grateful.
— Craig G Howe, co-active coach.
Your coaching is a testament of the power of a big heart. My valuable self exploration could not have been possible without the open, loving space you created. Your observations were astute and your curiosity led me to defining realisations.
— CP, coaching client.
Thank you for your guidance today. I felt so physically energised afterwards that I went for a dog walk (that I was not looking forward to) and I also have a feeling of mentally moving forwards.
— Lee, coaching client.
It’s great to have someone in your corner and as the weeks go by and we work together, I realise what a great choice I made.
— Derek, co-active coach
I really enjoyed the session and has definitely has lit the fire – especially in the work I do!
— Ali, coaching client.
Following our coaching yesterday I have woken with an energy that has not been with me for a long time. Amazing feeling of clarity. Thank you.
— J, coaching client.
Jacqui, you are a great coach. What you did with us that day was inspiring! I liked how it felt as though you were really responding to ME. The greatest value for me was in the insight triggered by the coaching. Thank you.
— Jan, coaching client.
My coaching sessions really have been life-changing - they’ve enabled me to feel much more confident about who I am and what I believe to be important. I DO have the skills and expertise I need to achieve what I want!”
— Liz, coaching client.
Our coaching helped me make the big step up into the leadership position I’d been wanting for a while - partly by developing leadership presence, and partly because I actually put myself forward in a way I might not have done in the past. You prompted the conversation about my leadership before I was even in the role, and that was the moment that I really stepped up, putting myself forward again for the role, and getting it this time!

There were two helpful things that stuck with me.

The first was my realisation I was capable of greater leadership ‘range’.

The second was in learning to mentally ‘step outside’ situations as they were happening, that emotional intelligence piece - so important for me personally and in my leadership.
— Paul Frost, Business Manger, Lloyd Honda
I’m really grateful to you. I found the day’s session very informative and useful, well organised and delivered in a very engaging manner – and our chat afterwards was particularly inspiring. I felt the most significant advice you gave me was to be lighter and less serious and see how that improves the response I get from others. Thank you so much for sending me the links on vulnerability, there’s so much to think about – and be brave about, within that idea. I like how she conveys an awareness of how that requires extreme personal strength which is not to be discredited as overemotionality. I will look into the other link after work. I ‘d just like to say thank you again, my superior was really pleased to receive evidence of me listening to her so soon after my appraisal! So thank you! Hope to see you again throughout this change process.
— Alana, group coaching client.
Jacqui created a beautiful, spaceous and hearfelt working environment. This allowed me to become more aware of many mechanisms of self-pity and self-defeat. I was also supported in exploring my dreams, in touching them with my fingers and feel all of their power and magnetic attraction.

All along my coaching journey I felt supported, championed and deeply appreciated by Jacqui: not only was it an exquisite feeling but it also nourished my self-esteem and commitment.
— Giulio Tamacoldi, The Brilliant Side Coaching
Thanks so much for today. You created a responsive relationship which felt authentic and genuine, and the use of movement and intuition, all with permission, really worked for me. It really had me think, and I really liked the ‘style’ with co-active coaching... moving to wherever it felt right.
— Deb, coaching client.
Our coaching gave me the courage to do what I needed to do.
— E, coaching client.
Working with Jacqui has been and is marvellous! Throughout our 5 sessions together she’s always managed to tailor the experience to my deeper needs (both expressed and unexpressed from me). With her vast knowledge and experience we managed to work through various topics and areas leaving me renewed of energy and filled with inspiration to continue my journey. And as a bonus if you ask about various team/work related topics/exercises/books on a specific topic you get great input, having this type of sounding board has been very valuable to me in my job as interim manager!
— N.A. Coaching/mentoring client.
Jacqui allowed me the space to think creatively about what was getting me ‘stuck’, asking powerful questions that led me to realize things about my motivations that I hadn’t fully expressed. Being able to articulate, and acknowledge, these was hugely powerful. Jacqui used humour, insight, awareness of language around shame, connection and vulnerability, and wonderful championing to help me gain new insight about my situation, my triggers and my behaviour that I have been thinking about for days afterward. Throughout the session she created a safe, non-judgmental space for me that was the perfect balance of depth and humour to ignite a fire! After the session she followed up with me directly to cement my homework and suggest further reading material that we had discussed in our call. A powerful coach and a powerful hour together.
— Megan Fraser, coaching client.
Thanks Jacqui for the wisdom and insights you brought to our session. I needed to talk through some ideas and I had much needed clarity when we finished our call.
— J.B., Mentoring (for facilitation) client.